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    I am a wife, mom of 2 beautiful children and daughter of my Heavenly Father. God has taken me through some amazing journeys. With each challenge I have learned more about His amazing Love and Grace. Take some time out of your busy, hectic day and join me as we sit in the Calm of God's Presence.

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Hi there friends,

It’s that time of year again when we start preparing to send the kids back to school. We spend mornings jotting down back to school shopping lists. In the afternoons we navigate isles filled with notebooks, folders, paper and pencils and help our kids pick out the perfect pair of shoes to go with the first day of school outfit.  All while desperately holding on to the last few days of freedom from early morning alarms and schedules.

While you are helping your kids make the transition to new friends, new schedules and homework I want to give you a gift. This gift will help undergird them in the confidence they need to have a successful school year. I have created a printable with verses to pray over your children as they go back to school.

We mamas have the power to strengthen our kids through prayer. When we pray God’s powerful word over them His all-powerful hands of protection surround them.

As our kids return to school may we not only provide the needed school supplies but may we also provide them with the foundation of praying God’s Word over them.

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In His Calm,

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Today I want to welcome my friend Carey Scott to The Calm of His Presence. Carey and I met 7 years ago at She Speaks. I have loved watching her faithfully follow God down the path he is leading her in ministering to women. She boldly over comes fear and steps out of her comfort zone to share how God works in her life. Thank you Carey for being with us today to share about your newest book UnCommon.


My first book, Untangled, was not an easy book to write.

In its pages, God asked me to share secret insecurities I never wanted to see the light of day. The ones that hurt so deep—so bad— you try to ignore them altogether.

But I included them anyway. I trusted (mostly) God’s reasoning for wanting them in there. And even though I would have never written about them without His prompting, I openly shared my deepest wounds with the world. I sat at my computer and bled my story onto the screen.

It was both cathartic and painful. I was honest beyond my comfort zone, yet comforted through my honesty. Writing that book was a beautiful experience.

So when I saw the 1-star review pop up on Amazon, I was speechless. I was hurt. And the tangles of insecurity started to wrap their way around me again. This woman had missed the point of my book. Instead of seeing courage and obedience, she decided my words were meaningless.

As I was busy promoting the book… I kept hearing her words over and over and over again. This should have been a joyous time, but instead I was stuck in the loop of her criticism.

I wanted to say… “Hey, I am a real person with real feelings. Words hurt me just as much as they hurt you. Please don’t use the computer screen as your shield to spew hate.”

Here is what I was on target to do: Sink in my circumstances.

I wanted to hunt her down and hurt her back. It would have been the normal response to something so painful. It would have made sense. Right? Can you think of a time where something rocked your world (in a bad way) and almost took you out of the game.

… a mean-spirited statement

… a moral failure

… a hard marriage

… a bad financial decision

… a diagnosis

… an injustice

Life isn’t easy, and we’re not promised a pain-free existence as Jesus girls. But here is some big truth:   We get to choose what we do with the hardships.

We can take the common route… or walk the uncommon path instead.

The common way tells us to give in or give up. Sometimes it just feels easier.

It encourages us to throw a temper tantrum and milk sympathy for all it’s worth. I know, this one can be fun for a while.

It suggests we make someone pay for what they did to us. Oh the plotting can make us feel better–temporarily, anyway.

And it makes us believe we deserve better. Pride, pride, pride.

But the uncommon way is a stark contrast, and it takes true grit to walk it out.

It tells us to rise above the unimaginable, not sit in our circumstances and wallow. Sometimes I hate adulting.

It’s making the decision to look past our circumstances and focus on God instead. So much easier said then done.

And in my situation, it challenged me to forgive when it was the last thing I wanted to do. It really was the last thing I wanted to do. But I chose to let it go, asking God for perspective. I thought, “Maybe she is in a tough spot, or maybe my words poked an old wound.” In that situation, God gave me compassion for her.

Here’s why that uncommon choice was such a big deal. In our marriage, Wayne is known as the diplomat. I am known as the assassin.

If I had kept my eye trained on her criticism, I would have made very bad choices. My anger and bitterness would have done me in—with good reason. I would have responded in ways that pointed the opposite direction that God.

I had to choose to forgive so I could find the gumption to continue doing what God created me to do.

And here’s what I’ve learned. Sometimes having Uncommon forgiveness means we extend mercy to that person—in that circumstance—more than once. Forgiving an offense is rarely a once-and-done process.

Of all the ways we are called to be uncommon, this might be one of the most important. And honestly, it’s probably the very hardest to walk out. But when we choose to forgive, that choice allows us to look past our circumstances… and walk in freedom.

It allows us to #beUncommon women.


Carey is an author and speaker, honest about her walk with the Lord… stumbles, fumbles and all. Her NEWLY RELEASED BOOK, Uncommon, a battle cry for women to step out of the ordinary and live with purpose and passion. Carey also wrote Untangled, a book about the insecurities we face as women and how to live in freedom. She lives in Northern Colorado with her family. Learn more at You can also connect with her on Facebook and Instagram.

Hey there friend,

Does this sound like you? You know you need to spend some time in God’s Word, learning and experiencing God’s presence, but you don’t know where to begin. You’re frustrated because you’re quiet time has been the same for years but things are feeling stale and uninspiring. You want to make a change but you don’t know how or where to begin.

My friend I’ve been there done that, I understand your struggles. Several years ago my personal quiet time with God was lack luster. I struggled because I desperately wanted to feel God’s Presence but the same ole thing I had been doing for years wasn’t working.  I wanted to hear from him and follow his leading in my life but the problem I faced was the inability to focus on one type of study and stick to it. There were so many wonderful options I had a hard time narrowing down to one.

That’s when I finally said enough is enough I had to make the decision. So, one day I sat down and made a list of my options of when, where, how and what. Once I broke things down I was able to see my options more clearly and make the best decision on how to have my quiet time. It was a game changer for me and now I want to help you.

I want to help you breakdown your options so you can begin having the quiet time you desire. In order to help you I have put together a free download called 5 Steps to a Successful Quiet Time. 5 Steps to a Successful Quiet Time will help you look at the specifics of your day and your needs in order to experience God’s presence and learn how to follow His leading.

In 5 Steps to a Successful Quiet Time you will:

  • Determine a dedicated time to study.
  • Decide a special place for your quiet time.
  • Determine what mode of study is best for you.
  • Determine your current need of what to study.

Are you ready to get started? I know I’m excited to help you begin or renew your quiet time. Sign up by filling out the form below to receive your 5 Steps to a Successful Quiet Time. Once you have filled out the form be sure to check your inbox for your confirmation email.

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After you download the 5 Steps to a Successful Quiet Time I will continue helping you by sharing with you a few of the things I put in my Bible Study Tool Basket.  So don’t wait, get started today by downloading your 5 Steps now.

In His Calm,

When you were a little girl did you dream of what your life would look like as an adult?

Did you envision a life married to the man of your dreams filled with diaper changes, midnight feedings, and tripping over toys as you carried a hamper load of clothing? Growing up did you see yourself as a successful business woman gaining the highest education you could achieve then climbing the corporate ladder? As a little girl did you play school with your friends knowing that one day you would be teaching youngsters to read in a classroom of your own?

But now as an adult you are living a life much different than the one you thought God had planned for you.

Instead of waking up next to the man of your dreams your left comforting your children alone when they wake in the middle of the night. Or the rooms you and your husband dream of being filled with toys and dirty clothes sit empty, only filled when guests arrive. The position you once worked so hard to obtain is now filled by someone else while you are home cleaning spilt milk. Instead of teaching little kids how to read you find yourself halfway around the world serving and loving on young women rescued from a life of slavery.

When life finds us in a completely different place than we ever thought we would be, it’s very easy to question and doubt the importance of where we are currently. We quickly compare ourselves and our lives to those who have what we thought we would have. Once the comparison and doubt begin we spiral into questioning our self worth, value and importance.

It’s at that point where we need to nip those thoughts and questions in the bud. We need to remember that God has a plan for our lives and in that plan there are different seasons and pastures.

“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven.”

Ecclesiastes 3:1

It’s what we do in the life God gives us that matters. Life may change, circumstances may change but God’s love for us never changes. God has seasons and pastures for us. Instead of questioning God’s plan for our lives or looking at ourselves as failures or less than we must take a step back and ask ourselves some questions.

  • In my former season and pasture did my work and life glorify God?
  • Did I seek God and His direction for my life?
  • As God moved me into a new pasture did I prayerfully and faithfully follow Him?
  • In my current pasture am I allowing God to use me to bring others to Him?
  • Am I faithfully serving God right where He has me in this moment?

While it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking we are not good enough or unimportant, when we take the time to step back and refocus our thoughts we see the bigger picture. There is a time for everything and a season and pasture in which God wants us to serve Him. The season were are in and the pasture we are serving in will look different from others but that doesn’t make it any less important. It also doesn’t make us any less successful.

God has called each one of us to a purpose and a pasture. As we begin to see the season and pasture we are in through God’s eyes let’s pray this prayer from Colossians 1:9-12

Dear Lord fill us with the knowledge of your will through all spiritual wisdom and understanding. Help us live a life worthy of you and may we please you in every way. Help us bear fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of you. Strengthen us with all power according to your glorious might that we may have great endurance and patience, joyfully giving thanks to you who has qualified us. In your name we pray, Amen.

In His Calm,

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