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    I am a wife, mom of 2 beautiful children and daughter of my Heavenly Father. God has taken me through some amazing journeys. With each challenge I have learned more about His amazing Love and Grace. Take some time out of your busy, hectic day and join me as we sit in the Calm of God's Presence.

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I know God has a place for me to serve Him but I don’t know how to narrow down the many opportunities before me.

I’m overwhelmed with the personal responsibilities before me while trying to finding time to serve God.

I feel guilty taking time away from my family to serve God.

I don’t know how to prioritize the needs and expectations of others while being available to serve God.

Do any of the statements above describe you? If they do, I want you to know are not alone. Over the last several years I have felt them at some point in time or other. I often hear women express frustration over their struggles with balancing the responsibilities of being a mom and wife, caring for aging parents, working, and serving God.

Today I want to share with you 3 tips on how to determine where God wants you to serve and how to juggle your responsibilities and serving God.

Step 1 – Stop, Breathe and Pray

It’s very easy to fill your to-do list with so much you become overwhelmed and find your head spinning from trying to decided what to do next. My friend will you do something for me? When you find yourself and your mind reeling from overload I want you to stop right where you are and take a deep breath. As you take a deep breath ask God to settle your mind and help you focus on the most important item on your list. Taking this step will help you refocus your thoughts on what’s most important.

Step 2 – God has called you to tend a specific Pasture.

If you’ve been around The Calm of His Presence much this year you know I have written a lot on the subject of Tending the Pasture God gives us. Tending my Pasture came out of a need for me to focus on the areas where God wants me to serve. I struggled with knowing that God has called me into ministry and desperately wanting to follow God in that calling but also knowing I have a family I love and want/need to care for, friends I want to help and a local Church I want to serve in. I frequently found myself unable to act because I didn’t know where to start.

Now, when I find myself in this situation I ask 3 questions.

  1. What are my priorities within my 4 walls? Is there something I need to be doing right now to care for or bless my family?
  2. How can I serve/bless those I come in contact with on a daily basis?
  3. How is God asking me to serve outside of my comfort zone?

Step 3 – It’s ok to say NO

As women we don’t like to tell people no. Those of us who are people pleasers are more afraid of disappointing someone than maintaining a healthy balance which in turn ends up draining the life right out of us. Friends it’s time we give ourselves permission to say no to things that aren’t life giving to us. We can’t be all things to all people. I want you to promise me you will start working on saying no. It isn’t easy but if you keep in mind what gives you life and what drains life it will make it much easier to tell someone no. Saying no and creating margin in your life will give you the freedom to tend the pasture God has given you.

Today’s post was just a touch of how to focus on Tending the Pasture God gives us. If you would like more help in determining the Pasture God has given you fill out the form below and  the Tending my Pasture Checklist will be sent to you. This check list will help you determine your priorities in 4 areas – your personal pasture, within your 4 walls, outside your 4 walls and outside your comfort zone.

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 In His Calm,






Hi there friends,

It’s that time of year again when we start preparing to send the kids back to school. We spend mornings jotting down back to school shopping lists. In the afternoons we navigate isles filled with notebooks, folders, paper and pencils and help our kids pick out the perfect pair of shoes to go with the first day of school outfit.  All while desperately holding on to the last few days of freedom from early morning alarms and schedules.

While you are helping your kids make the transition to new friends, new schedules and homework I want to give you a gift. This gift will help undergird them in the confidence they need to have a successful school year. I have created a printable with verses to pray over your children as they go back to school.

We mamas have the power to strengthen our kids through prayer. When we pray God’s powerful word over them His all-powerful hands of protection surround them.

As our kids return to school may we not only provide the needed school supplies but may we also provide them with the foundation of praying God’s Word over them.

Fill out the form below to download the verses to pray for our children.



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Today I want to welcome my friend Carey Scott to The Calm of His Presence. Carey and I met 7 years ago at She Speaks. I have loved watching her faithfully follow God down the path he is leading her in ministering to women. She boldly over comes fear and steps out of her comfort zone to share how God works in her life. Thank you Carey for being with us today to share about your newest book UnCommon.


My first book, Untangled, was not an easy book to write.

In its pages, God asked me to share secret insecurities I never wanted to see the light of day. The ones that hurt so deep—so bad— you try to ignore them altogether.

But I included them anyway. I trusted (mostly) God’s reasoning for wanting them in there. And even though I would have never written about them without His prompting, I openly shared my deepest wounds with the world. I sat at my computer and bled my story onto the screen.

It was both cathartic and painful. I was honest beyond my comfort zone, yet comforted through my honesty. Writing that book was a beautiful experience.

So when I saw the 1-star review pop up on Amazon, I was speechless. I was hurt. And the tangles of insecurity started to wrap their way around me again. This woman had missed the point of my book. Instead of seeing courage and obedience, she decided my words were meaningless.

As I was busy promoting the book… I kept hearing her words over and over and over again. This should have been a joyous time, but instead I was stuck in the loop of her criticism.

I wanted to say… “Hey, I am a real person with real feelings. Words hurt me just as much as they hurt you. Please don’t use the computer screen as your shield to spew hate.”

Here is what I was on target to do: Sink in my circumstances.

I wanted to hunt her down and hurt her back. It would have been the normal response to something so painful. It would have made sense. Right? Can you think of a time where something rocked your world (in a bad way) and almost took you out of the game.

… a mean-spirited statement

… a moral failure

… a hard marriage

… a bad financial decision

… a diagnosis

… an injustice

Life isn’t easy, and we’re not promised a pain-free existence as Jesus girls. But here is some big truth:   We get to choose what we do with the hardships.

We can take the common route… or walk the uncommon path instead.

The common way tells us to give in or give up. Sometimes it just feels easier.

It encourages us to throw a temper tantrum and milk sympathy for all it’s worth. I know, this one can be fun for a while.

It suggests we make someone pay for what they did to us. Oh the plotting can make us feel better–temporarily, anyway.

And it makes us believe we deserve better. Pride, pride, pride.

But the uncommon way is a stark contrast, and it takes true grit to walk it out.

It tells us to rise above the unimaginable, not sit in our circumstances and wallow. Sometimes I hate adulting.

It’s making the decision to look past our circumstances and focus on God instead. So much easier said then done.

And in my situation, it challenged me to forgive when it was the last thing I wanted to do. It really was the last thing I wanted to do. But I chose to let it go, asking God for perspective. I thought, “Maybe she is in a tough spot, or maybe my words poked an old wound.” In that situation, God gave me compassion for her.

Here’s why that uncommon choice was such a big deal. In our marriage, Wayne is known as the diplomat. I am known as the assassin.

If I had kept my eye trained on her criticism, I would have made very bad choices. My anger and bitterness would have done me in—with good reason. I would have responded in ways that pointed the opposite direction that God.

I had to choose to forgive so I could find the gumption to continue doing what God created me to do.

And here’s what I’ve learned. Sometimes having Uncommon forgiveness means we extend mercy to that person—in that circumstance—more than once. Forgiving an offense is rarely a once-and-done process.

Of all the ways we are called to be uncommon, this might be one of the most important. And honestly, it’s probably the very hardest to walk out. But when we choose to forgive, that choice allows us to look past our circumstances… and walk in freedom.

It allows us to #beUncommon women.


Carey is an author and speaker, honest about her walk with the Lord… stumbles, fumbles and all. Her NEWLY RELEASED BOOK, Uncommon, a battle cry for women to step out of the ordinary and live with purpose and passion. Carey also wrote Untangled, a book about the insecurities we face as women and how to live in freedom. She lives in Northern Colorado with her family. Learn more at You can also connect with her on Facebook and Instagram.

Hey there friend,

Does this sound like you? You know you need to spend some time in God’s Word, learning and experiencing God’s presence, but you don’t know where to begin. You’re frustrated because you’re quiet time has been the same for years but things are feeling stale and uninspiring. You want to make a change but you don’t know how or where to begin.

My friend I’ve been there done that, I understand your struggles. Several years ago my personal quiet time with God was lack luster. I struggled because I desperately wanted to feel God’s Presence but the same ole thing I had been doing for years wasn’t working.  I wanted to hear from him and follow his leading in my life but the problem I faced was the inability to focus on one type of study and stick to it. There were so many wonderful options I had a hard time narrowing down to one.

That’s when I finally said enough is enough I had to make the decision. So, one day I sat down and made a list of my options of when, where, how and what. Once I broke things down I was able to see my options more clearly and make the best decision on how to have my quiet time. It was a game changer for me and now I want to help you.

I want to help you breakdown your options so you can begin having the quiet time you desire. In order to help you I have put together a free download called 5 Steps to a Successful Quiet Time. 5 Steps to a Successful Quiet Time will help you look at the specifics of your day and your needs in order to experience God’s presence and learn how to follow His leading.

In 5 Steps to a Successful Quiet Time you will:

  • Determine a dedicated time to study.
  • Decide a special place for your quiet time.
  • Determine what mode of study is best for you.
  • Determine your current need of what to study.

Are you ready to get started? I know I’m excited to help you begin or renew your quiet time. Sign up by filling out the form below to receive your 5 Steps to a Successful Quiet Time. Once you have filled out the form be sure to check your inbox for your confirmation email.

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After you download the 5 Steps to a Successful Quiet Time I will continue helping you by sharing with you a few of the things I put in my Bible Study Tool Basket.  So don’t wait, get started today by downloading your 5 Steps now.

In His Calm,

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